Yes, you definitely have a point about explicit domestic abuse situations (and in those instances, men do now have the same justice as women do). My article and my intention behind the words you quotes are encompassing a lot of different types of violence (from small microagressions to explicit). Like anything, the more explicit the more justice (usually). For example, I was once on a metro ride and a man across from me kept staring and then started masturbating under his pants. I wasn't being hurt, there's no tape to get any justice, and thats just one of those things lots of women have experienced. but that is a form of sexual violence, a sexual activity where consent from one part was not granted. I certainly did not consent to a stranger actively masturbating to me on public transportation. One of my best friends, also on public transportation has had many experiences of men grinding up against her. Also violence that is very normalized, so much so that she just brushed it off...because "thats just how it is." The frequency and acceptance of "boys will be boys" or "thats just how it is" results in normalization. And violence against women is normalized in many arenas, even if we agree its wrong. Normalization does not equate an absence of knowing morality. and the unfortunate reality is a lot of violence isn't "provable." My friend had no proof that random guys were grinding on her in metros, how can she get justice? What should she do after she feels violated, what course of action would you recommend?

As far as your point in the office and if it was a woman. I was frustrated at the manager and if it was a woman I would also be frustrated because it's a systemic issue (which everyone contributed too).

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