read your piece, loved it! infidelity is very rarely cut and dry. and I also agree, the blame of cheating does not lie on the other person (coming from someone who was cheated on and has been the other woman). Only time I think the “other woman” should have some blame is when she knows both parties and is betraying the person being cheated on. Say if you hooked up with your best friend's boyfriend. But I think a more rarity than if you happen to sleep with or be with a married/taken person.